[TW: Violence Against Women]
Or: Don’t sleep with the nice guy
This post is about School Days. There will be spoilers.
There’s been a lot of chatter on the feminist and MRA blogospheres about why the “Nice Guy” is a myth or a horrible thing to be or somesuch. The basic premise behind the critique is that the “Nice Guy” believes that he can get a girl by just being there. And, as Shakesville points out that position is degrading to women in general and the particular woman in specific because it implies that your kind actions towards another human being deserve payment. In sex.
This idea has been examined to the hilt and argued about on sites where I’m not trying to talk about anime, but I think the idea is interesting, ESPECIALLY, since School Days (about which I’m going to write a lot in the future) takes a crack at it from the other side.
The setup: Makoto Ito (HATEHATEHATEHATEHATE) falls for Kotohana but, as his relationship with her progresses at a snails’ pace, he continues to seek advice from his longtime friend, Sekai—who has a crush on the hapless git herself. Gradually, this advice and help moves into the bedroom, as Makoto expresses his desire to gain some experience. She, friendly to a fault (and with a bit of a crush) obliges setting in motion the darker portion of the show.
Sekai, in this case, runs right up against the other side of this horrible fallacy and suffers terribly for it. Despite having consistent sex with Makoto, she gains NOTHING in emotional intimacy as he continues to pine for Kotohana and then graduate to sleeping with a large portion of the rest of the class. Of course, things from bad to worse for her when she finds out that she’s pregnant and then expects the asshat to do the right thing (he does not) and everyone ends up dead (I will post later on the nasty misogyny that is yandere).
Sekai’s problem was that she believed she could control or win Makoto through sex in the same manner the “Nice Guys” attempt to control or win girls through “emotional intimacy”. Sleeping with a guy who likes another girl doesn’t automatically make him turn to you, just as seeing a lot of movies with your female friend doesn’t make her your girlfriend.