What About the Waifuz?

Just because Animay, doesn't mean that Anishould

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Why I Don’t Write Much About Masculinity


Every time I have to talk about trans* issues I take stock of my personal feelings about my gender and come back with, “meh”. I think this is what ‘cis privilege’ is—in part.

I don’t wish I could wear more dresses, I don’t have curiosity about makeup (well, that’s not strictly true. Makeup is a skill and I love learning skills. But if I knew how to apply eye shadow, would I wear it daily? No.). In addition every time the subject of crossplay comes up, I balk because while I like putting on an act as much as the next egotist, I would miss my beard.

So I am pretty sure that I have no interest in performing what we consider “femme”. But at the same time, I don’t consider the stuff I do want to perform “manly” so much as I just want to be my dad.

The rules? Be comfortable in the back country. Know how to use tools. Drinks are clear, brown, or yellow. Coffee after dinner. Cook for your family. Wear an apron. Be a gracious host. Love your wife/girlfriend/son/daughter. Engage in bad wordplay.

At the same time my dad was an architect. So he has an eye for art. So also: notice color, be able to pick shoes and jewellery, have an eye for furniture and paintings.

So, manly right? But when I look back at the list, I also see my best friend from high school (a lovely woman, strong climber, killer cook, and first-class drinker of whiskey). I learned more about leadership and management from my mother than my father. And she has been the primary breadwinner in my house for as long as I can remember.

And so this is why I don’t think a lot about my gender. I look to people how they would imagine me and I let my actions define the specifics of my identity. That is a privilege, and I am only starting to unpack it.

Cross-posted from my personal tumblr. Mildly relevant to here.

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Since I identify as feminist, can I give myself “feminist cookies” and by that I mean can I buy a box of Oreos and eat them while reading gender theory?

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Thanks for the responses. I’ll get to Valvrave when Chris returns and write about it then. ^^;

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Haven’t seen the episode yet, since I’m watching with my roommate, but I asked the twitteratti what they thought and I’ll ask you all:

Given that there’s a tasteless and triggering rape scene in episode 10, do I watch it, write it and drop it, or finish it out and provide analysis from there?

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Blazing Splendor: Putting the "Con" in "Consent"

More in the “Cosplay is Not Consent” discussion. I started putting this stuff together when I started thinking about slutwalks and their attempt to offer a more victim-friendly (that’s not really the right word… hmm….) take on street harassment. These women are asserting their basic rights to dress how they want in their daily lives, and so much like the point at the end of the article these women (and men!) deserve to be treated with respect on the street regardless of what they’re wearing.

But it’s worse at conventions. Why? Because conventions are perceived to be a safe space. I remember seeing Lauren Orsini Bowers interview a guy who went to cons cross-dressed because he liked it and felt like he fit in. Our 2012 survey indicated that most con goers feel more at home at conventions than the real world.

What the OP was arguing is that “conventions are NOT a safe space, cosplayers, deal with it, because we’re awkward.” THIS. SUCKS. Why not make those conventions into a safer space for everyone? ISN’T THAT WHAT WE WANT?

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